Spirituality can help you winning at office politics
This is an interesting topic we
will discuss today as I had been trying to write on this from a long time and
got few requests from people who find it difficult dealing with office politics
while ascending into spirituality or in normal life too.
“Office Politics, the Divine Comedy!”
as the topic suggests is a very common problem these days. With growing
awareness & knowledge along with competition in the world to be the first
one always, this problem has been affecting a lot of people who are not so good
in dealing with it.
People sometimes ask me, I am not
doing anything wrong but people tend to get jealous from me, or I don’t bother
anyone still they try to do everything to create hurdles in my way.
Some people ask mam’ why people
gossip, why they can’t understand my problem? Why can’t they mind their own
business etc. etc.?
Some will have challenges with
triggered emotions/ego energies like how can she say like this to me? I am the
boss or I am senior than her. Why people don’t give me importance like he/she
gets.
Few people have their own
presumptions about others or even self. They have preconceived notions about
self and others which enforces them to expect others to response the way they
think or want.
A simple thing I recommend here
is, stop following others, stop seeing what others are doing, what others are
running after and what is going around them. I agree we should be aware of what
is going around us in terms of situations, people or happenings, but we should
not get too attached with things that it starts impacting our peace of mind.
Most people who are still stuck
at physical plane don’t realize it is not outside; it is inside that we need to
look and work upon. When you are pointing one finger towards someone else,
other four are towards you, you sometimes see your own reflection in others and
try to become defensive or take it personally.
Not everyone can ascend on the
same level spiritually, everyone has their own journey, own divine timing of
that one call from the Universe which when heard and acknowledged is going to
change your life forever!
However, it is not compulsory
that you have to be spiritual to deal with all these things going around you,
but “Spirituality” can help you a lot. Did you notice people who regularly
meditate or follow some spiritual practices are more strong mentally and
emotionally than who do not?
Here is the catch! Becoming
spiritual will not make you a saint/sage, unless you with your free will decide
to become one as per your divine path or divine purpose realization but what
spirituality does is helps one recall the powers being held inside and not
outside.
When you meditate, you give space
and acknowledgement to yourself, your higher self, the Universe within you. It
helps you align with self, with universe, it will help you identify what is
there you need to work on which will ultimately reflect in your outer world
too.
You attract people, situations
and things in your life according to the vibrations/karmas you hold (Positive
or negative). [Click here to read my article on Karmic Balance – Balancing your Karmas]
Even if you don’t hurt someone,
still you may hold a past grudge or guilt, some sort of negative energies or
emotions inside that is attracting that particular pattern in your life. It
could also be a way of the Universe to make you hear and understand what it is
trying to convey to you. You may have been ignorant and missing on it from many
lifetimes or years.
See, people will keep on
triggering you, they will create challenges in your life, all you need to see
them from inner eyes and not outer. The more you live in “Gratitude” and
“Thankfulness” mode and accept things the way they are keeping your dignity and
originality even after being a part of this illusionary world, more you will
have peace in your mind, body, soul.
Emotional and mental triggers are
nothing but an opportunity to identify what is wrong within us, what they are
trying to tell us and work on. Work on that habit, that resistance or fear you
are holding back inside you and once it is cured or worked upon you will notice
those patterns will start dissolving on its own and those people or kind of
situations will stop occurring in your life.
Take this as a divine comedy
where you come across some characters who think they are playing smart but
actually they don’t know they are helping you improvise more and become even
better strengthening your capabilities and abilities to deal with them
gracefully.
In fact, people who intentionally
play politics or create hurdles for others or try to harm others, they are not
harming others but themselves, they are adding up more negative karmas to not
only their lives but to their financial or money vibrations too. These people
are holding in themselves, a lot of emotional pain or financial issues in their
lives itself.
Many of you may not be aware of
the fact that universe works on some spiritual laws (there are more than 25
laws and even more) and one of the laws is of “Give and Receive or the law of
three”. What you give you get back with the power of three.
So, even if you are abusing self
or anyone, criticizing self or anyone, cursing self or anyone, it will only add
to your burden. Learn to be humble, assertive not rude and dominant. If
insulting someone brings happiness to you, it is alarming, you have a lot of
pain inside you which you seem to blame for to others and think giving them
pain will make you happy but you don’t realize you are calling that pain back
to yourself with the power of three which is three times.
Coming back to our discussion,
here, I am sharing few “Golden Rules” or “Secrets to winning at office politics”
and how to stay happy & joyful throughout life:
The very first rule is “Forget
about others opinion about you” – What others think or say is not your
reality, so feeling sad, annoyed or bad about what the other person thinks
about you should not matter to you at all. If they say something, you are
blessed with a strong mind and heart and two ears to listen from one and let it
take an exit from the other one.
The second rule is “Stop looking
for approvals from others” – Unless someone else is going to approve you, your
qualities or shortcomings, you are not complete or whole within are very
destructive thoughts. Some people say I don’t mind or care what they say but
inside something get triggered and they keep on plunging on what was being said
whole day thinking bad about themselves. This creates a fear, inferiority or
hurtful pain of emotions inside you which is enough to self-sabotage.
The third rule is “Respecting
Individual Boundaries” – Now, boundaries here doesn’t mean you have to be rude,
or introvert kind of person not talking to anyone but what it means, being in
touch with everyone but still not losing touch with your own self by knowing
what are your individual boundaries when you communicate to others or how and
what to say and how much to say. This is applicable to others as well keeping
in mind what to discuss and how much to discuss with the other person. Unless
the other person is trustworthy never share your personal life/private moments
with them. Ignoring this may give space to gossiping and slandering. Privacy matters! Learn to say "No", wherever necessary.
The fourth and most important
rule is “Taking Responsibility” – Yes, taking responsibility of your own
thoughts, words and behavior is equally important before you hold someone
accountable for their behavior and choice of words. Treat others the way you
want them to treat you!
The fifth rule is “Self-Love” –
Never forget this golden rule of your life. You must first understand what
self-love is and not what others had been telling you since ages as a part of
your mind conditioning. To know more about self-love read my previous post Why Self-Love is Important?
The sixth rule is “Know Yourself
by Meditating” – Meditation is a vital part of our physical, mental, emotional
and spiritual health. The more you build a spiritual relationship with self,
more you will be at peace and know the unknown truths of this Universe. It will
teach you and guide you how to communicate with the Universe for whatever you
seek in your life and want to manifest for yourself.
Also, meditation helps you
reconnect with self and let you hear your inner voice which is your sixth sense
that is again very important to take right decisions on right time in life.
When you meditate, you give space
and permission to self and the Universe to release the energies, cords,
thoughts and whatever is not serving your highest good from not only your
physical body, but from your etheric body too which is the electromagnetic
field we all have around us. The more clear it is more you are aligned with
your own-self and more you stay in your own boundaries and in peace with self
and others. Meditation also helps you keep grounded in times of stress and
helps your logical and creative mind to work better.
The seventh rule is “Learn to
Forgive” – It is like nail in the coffin. Put all negativity, negative thoughts,
resentments, revenge, guilt or painful memories in a coffin of memories, hit it
with a final nail of forgiveness in the coffin and forget about it. It is
important, the more you learn and practice this technique, more you will see
positive changes in your life. To read more about forgiveness techniques visit
my previous articles - It is Important to Forgive Your Own Self and Others, Forgiveness and Love are the only Stepping Stones, A Prayer for Forgiveness.
Forgiveness not only helps you
forgive and forget but with practice you will notice, other people does not
hold power to manipulate and trigger you anymore and you are more focused,
peaceful and happy within self and from outside. This will also instill a habit of ignoring &
mindfulness, whatever is not going to serve your happiness, be it people,
situations and any of their actions or words about you or anything will not
affect you ever. With this you will
notice it will become a natural course of your life as a nature and you will
become more joyful as compared to earlier.
Take an initiative with these
seven rules and observe the positive difference in your life. Hope the
information I shared as guidance above is helpful for all my blog readers
throughout the cosmos!
J
Love, Light, Peace, Gratitude and lots of
Blessings to all!
We
all are one!
We
are Love!
One
Love!