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It is Important to Forgive Yourself and Others

During my own practice and for so many years, there has been a lot of talk about forgiving oneself and others. I knew there would be lots of articles and forums discussing the importance of forgiveness.

However, today I am going to share some personal experiences and how I have started to practice the art of forgiveness. A few years back, for me, forgiveness meant feeling sorry and saying "sorry".

However, ever since I became a part of this lightworker community and when I started healing myself, I realized it's just not about feeling sorry and saying it.

There are a lot of emotions that give rise to negative energies within us, and then that energy becomes a source of fear or hatred.

Be wary of these two keywords/emotions: "fear and hatred."

The moment we encounter an unexpected person or situation, it gives rise to some expectations. When those expectations are not met, we feel discontented, angry, or sad, and these kinds of feelings give rise to either fear or hatred.

Usually, we as humans never realize that everything in us and around us is energy, vibrations, and sounds. Have you ever wondered why, when a particular person comes and even if you are sad or dull, you just feel happy, excited, and comfortable and you forget about your sad emotions? The presence of that particular person just makes you feel good and happy, right? And this could happen with someone you don’t feel connected with at all and just can’t bear his or her presence.

The reason why this happens is that we all possess certain kinds of energies, positive or negative. The more positive energy someone has, the more chances there are that he or she connects easily with other people and always wins their hearts with their way of talking and interacting and with their presence, in fact.

This happens the same with a person holding negative energies, and nobody wants to interact much or even meet that person, so they earn the tag of "unlikeable" sometimes.

We all possess and emit or pass on energies to each other. That is why when a positive person comes and we receive the happy energies, it creates a positive aura around that person and us, and it just changes everything to the positive, and vice versa in the case of the negative.

So, now you all must be waiting for the next step, how to overcome all this, right?

We will certainly discuss this now. We live in a society where we have friends, family, relatives, colleagues, etc. with whom we either like or not, have a good connection or not, but we have to maintain certain relationships and live with that.

So, first, I personally recommend starting to focus on love, on the loving energy around you and others. Love is not restricted to a boyfriend, husband, or wife. It is a universal feeling and energy that every relationship possesses, despite its nature and existence.

We must learn to love ourselves first and then others. What we see is sometimes our own projection; what we think or communicate in the form of energies manifests in forms, karmas, situations, people, and relationships, among other things.

There are a few techniques we can start using to deal with negative emotions. Every lightworker has their own experiences and findings, and they recommend the best things for you.

The one I would personally prefer is "Ho’oponopono". There are different ways in which light workers can practice it. However, the easiest one I came across and tried on myself is the one I am going to share with you.

You might be struggling while trying to pronounce its name. Let me make it simple (Ho-o-po-no-po-no). This is a Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness. As it has passed from one generation to another, from one continent to another, and from several light workers, it can be done in many ways depending on what has been recommended.

But what I've discovered to be more comfortable and happier with is the way I practice it. It is not at all necessary for you to be a light worker to practice this, but yes, it would be good if you started taking out some time daily for yourself and did some pranayama, meditated a little, and then stepped into this.

 There are many ways to do pranayama also, or I should say, working with your breath. Believe me, it is not rocket science like we all think.

I do it during my meditation and it is really easy. The more you incorporate it into your life, the more you will start feeling content and at peace with yourself and others.

Time does not matter if you do not get time in the morning; practice this before sleeping, but at least 1 hour after dinner.

Prerequisites

Before starting this process, make sure you decide upon three important people’s names with whom you want to practice this forgiveness and loving healing process. The first would be the closest person to your family. The second will be your closest friend, and the third, the person with whom you are having a difficult relationship, time, or issues. It can be your boss, a colleague, an old friend, a husband, or an enemy, troubling you emotionally, mentally, situational, or in any other manner.

Most of us breathe incorrectly, so let's first see how to breathe.

  • Sit straight on a chair or lie down comfortably in a place where you will not be disturbed. You can play soft meditation music in the background to help you relax and feel positive. You can also light your favorite oil in the oil burner, or simply to cleanse the environment, use camphor.
  • Before starting, close your eyes, pray to the divine, God, to shine his holy light upon your house, your family, and you, like a cocoon, and encase you all in his holy bubble of bright white light (you have to mentally visualize it). Pray to him to cleanse the surroundings, create a shield around you and the place you are meditating, and protect you from any kind of negative energies (these can distract you during your meditation, so it's very important to set your intention of protection).
  • Then, simply concentrate on your breathing. You have to breathe from your abdomen. Like when you fill the air in a balloon, in the same way, breathe from the nose and your stomach and abdomen should be filled with air, then hold the breath for 3-5 seconds and release it from your mouth. Repeat this at least thrice. This will help you relax, and you will be able to get rid of all those pesky thoughts in your mind and heart. It will also help you get centered from within. Your breathing must be deep and comfortable. Feel that peace and stillness of mind from within during this process.
  • After this, with that background music already playing, you will be able to connect with your own self. Let go of any complaints, negative thoughts, and feelings of divine peace.
  • Once you are ready, start visualizing that you are standing in front of a full-size mirror and that you see your own reflection in that mirror.
  • Now say this to yourself and keep visualizing yourself in the mirror: 
    • Say these loving comments mentally to yourself in the mirror: 
      • Hello, I just want to tell you that I love you. I love you sincerely. If there is anything I have done to harm you in any way, knowingly or unknowingly, then I apologize. I am now walking on a new path, one that is filled with love and light. May we walk this path with more love, light, and unity.
      • Say bye-bye to yourself with a loving emotion and a smile.
  • Now, when you feel ready, invite that most connected or loved and closest member of your family and visualize him/her in that mirror. 
    • Now say mentally to the person whom you have visualized: 
      • Hello, I just want to tell you that I love you. I love you sincerely. If there is anything I have done to harm you in any way, knowingly or unknowingly, then I apologize. I am now walking on a new path, one that is filled with truth, love, and light. I am now also ready to forgive you for anything you have done to me, knowingly or unknowingly, that has harmed me in any way. May we continue to walk our paths together with love and unity and may we both be happy in our lives.
  • Now, when you feel ready, invite that most connected, loved, and closest friend you have and visualize him/her in that mirror.
    • Now say mentally to the person whom you have visualized:
      • Hello, I just want to tell you that I love you. I love you sincerely. If there is anything I have done to harm you in any way, knowingly or unknowingly, then I apologize. I am now walking on a new path, one that is filled with truth, love, and light. I am now also ready to forgive you for anything you have done to me, knowingly or unknowingly, that has harmed me in any way. May we continue to walk our paths together with love and unity and may we both be happy in our lives.
  • When you feel ready, invite that person with whom you have difficult feelings, a situation, or who is your enemy, and visualize him/her in that mirror. 
    • Now say mentally to the person whom you have visualized: 
      • Hello, I just want to tell you that I love you. I love you sincerely. If there is anything I have done to harm you in any way, knowingly or unknowingly, then I apologize. I am now walking on a new path, one that is filled with truth, love, and light. I am now also ready to forgive you for anything you have done to me, knowingly or unknowingly, that has harmed me in any way. May we continue to walk our paths together with love and unity and may we both be happy in our lives.
  • Now be in that state and notice how you are feeling: loved, sad, frustrated, relaxed, etc. Allow yourself to be in that state for a few minutes and free yourself from those hard feelings and burdens, and then allow yourself to gently come back to your physical being, and then come back gently, lovingly, happily in the state of consciousness. When you are ready, slowly open your eyes.

Enjoy the new realization and feelings of joy and happiness, relaxation, freedom from all those heavy emotions, and love within.

Note: Saying "I love you" to the visualized people is a way of sending and receiving loving energy between you and them only, to make peace with them. Regular practice will show you such unexpected results from the other side, and you will notice a positive change in yourself also, and you will love doing it for your lifetime.



Love, Light, Peace, and lots of divine and angel blessings to you all….

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